PART I

Tips & Hints

Tips

Emergency Pick-me-up Page: 'Consists of links to a variety of different--expressions, poems, songs, stories, quotes & images--to lighten your day.'

Condolence & Sympathy Page: For those 'in the stage of 'What can I do, now?'

Dumb Remarks and Stupid Questions: From WidowNet. Things NOT to say or ask.

Getting Through The Holidays

Crossing The Creek: A perspective on the process of dying from a nursing practitionaer in the field of death and dying. "It is intended to provide dying people and their caregivers with a general description of what they can expect to encounter. While understanding does not eliminate the impact of experience, it can certainly reduce some of the consternation and allay that creeping sense of panic."

Funerals and Rituals

Customs and Rituals

Personalized Ceremonies and Rituals: Although aimed at funeral directors and the specific circumstance of cremations this article is valuable for the insight it gives into the importance of the funeral or other ceremony in helping the bereaved meet their "mourning needs". Useful for pastors, counsellors and families.

Funeral Resources

The Funeral Help Page: From the Alzheimer's Research Foundation of Virginia. Informative. Very helpful.

Bereavement Resources: Collection of resources from a funeral home.

The Natural Death Handbook: Good resources on simplicity in death and funerals. Other resources as well.

Funeral Service Center: A good resource for information regarding funerals and what to expect. Info on lowering funeral costs through the National Funeral Directors Association.

General Grief Resource Links

About Death

Death, What you Can Expect: The physical signs of approaching death.

What Does Someone Dying Need?: Includes: settling emotional accounts, straightening out finances, an advocate, ethical and financial wills, funeral plans, basic info on diseases and dying process, a safe place to talk, etc.

"Close To Home": From Sojourner's Magazine, September, 1995 an article on the end of life.

Spiritual Support at the End of Life: Written for AIDS victims and their caregivers, family and friends but excellent for others as well.

Death and Dying Booklist: From Self Help Books, a short list of books on death and dying.

Project Death in America: Comprehensive study and resources.

Psych Questionnaire on Death & Dying: Participate in a psychology study being done by a masters student.

The Social Face of Death: Study reference on the implications of death in our society.

Sociology of Death and Dying: Scholarly. Excellent review of death and society, religion, and culture.

Project on Death In America

Death, Mourning and Caring: Text by Robert Marrone of California State University, Sacramento.

Death and Healing

Death Investigation in the United States and Canada

SelectSurf -- Society -- Death Links

About Dying

The Centre For Living With Dying

About Grief

The Grieving Process: From the Against Drunk Drivers (ADD) group.

The Grieving Process: Describes the stages of grief. Explains the process.

Grief Tips: Good information on the process and how to grieve well.

Grief Journal Entries: Article from Keith Drury of the Tuesday Files.

Grief Talk: From Dr. Bill Webster.

Aspects of Grief

"Closure" : My Experience: A personal comment on forgiveness and closure by Bill Chadwick, a dad whose son was killed by a drunk driver. Important article.

Coping With The Unexpected Loss of a Loved One: Very helpful article on this occasional aspect of bereavement.

Aging, Death & Dying: From Eldercare Web.

Book Resources on Grief

Children Coping With Grief: Book list - annotated.

Life's End Bookstore: Resource from DeathNet.

Children Mourning, Mourning Children - A collection of grief studies: From Growth House.

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Children and Loss

Raindrop: A cartoon style, booklet style site that explains death to children.

The Waterbug Story: A personal favourite of mine.

Barr-Harris Children's Grief Center: Good resources. 'Grief Center web site is designed for general educational purposes only. It does not provide medical or psychological advice or professional services.'

How To Help Children Deal With Death: From Child Health Talk a resource on how to support a child dealing with death (ie., death of the family pet, death of a loved one, should children be taken to funerals?). Recommended resources listed.

Children Coping With Grief and Dying: Books About Death, Loss, Illness, and Hope for Children and their Caregivers.

Caring Insights - Children, Dying, and Death: Article with tips.

Grief Info Links

Bereavement and Hospice Support Netline: Contains lists of resources. Deals with care of dying.

Grief Net: A collection of resources of value to those experiencing loss and grief.

Willowgreen: Excellent resource.

Crisis, Grief and Healing: Well done collection of resources and links.

The Grief Recovery Institute: This is an internationally recognized authority in grief recovery, providing programs for Compassionate Friends, the national SIDS Foundation and the national AIDS Network among others. Has a certification program for grief counselling that leads to the establishing of Grief Outreach Groups and Grief Community Education. Excellent Grief Handbook, articles, tapes and other resources. A must see!!!

Motherloss: A page where those grieving the loss of their mothers can share and can get in touch with others. Tastefully done.

Bereavement Support: Good resource from Family Village.

About.Com's Grief and Mourning Resources: 'Resources to assist those mourning a loss. Grief is a process that we all go through after a loss.'

Journey of Hearts: Designed to offer resources dealing with many different types of losses.

Health Care Information Resources -- Death Links: From McMaster University.

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Holidays

Tips for the Holidays: How to Help Ourselves: Self- help tips from Donna Kalk.

Surviving the Holidays: Adapted from article by chaplain Gerald Hill.

Remember The Love With The Loss During The Holidays: From the Detroit News, an article that appeared last Christmas time. Good advice.

In Memory

A Place To Honor Grief: Check it out. A good and helpful site.

City of the Silent: Somewhat esoteric. A virtual cemetery.

The Virtual Memorial Garden: British resource.

Honoring Our Mothers: Site provided by Carrie Nelson off of "Motherloss" where one can post short memorials to mothers.

Life After Life?

Dr. Raymond Moody

Lists

OncoLink: Subscribe to FACING-AHEAD: an e-mail discussion group designed to provide support for those who are facing the death of a loved one as well as those who have experienced the death of a loved one. You will find support and help from others who are in the same situation.

OncoLink: Subscribe to HOSPICE-L: an e-mail discussion group about hospice-related issues.

OncoLink: Subscribe to HOSPICE VOLUNTEERS: an e-mail discussion group for those who volunteer at hospices.

The GERINET mailing list has had many useful discussions about issues relating to older folks, gerontological professionals, and death and dying. To join the GERINET mailing list send a message to: listserv@ubvm.cc.buffalo.edu Leave the subject line empty and put the following message in the body: SUBscribe GERINET Leave out the brackets and put nothing else in the message.

Loss of a Pet

Grief and Pet Loss: By veterinarian Ed Williams. Excellent site. Not gooey.

Pet Loss and Grieving Resource Pages: Info about grief and other pet info and links.

Men and Grief

MenWeb - Men's Issues Men and Grief: From MenWeb's M.E.N. Magazine.

MenWeb (M.E.N. Magazine): Excellent resources for men.

MenWeb - Men's Issues A Man's Grief

MIA-KIA Resources

Sons & Daughters In Touch: Children of MIA or KIA military personnel of Southern California.

National Sons & Daughters In Touch

Multiple Loss In Community

Grief and Multiple Loss: Article from 'Being Alive Newsletter,' August 1993.

AirCraft Casualty Emotional Support Services Grief Support

Newsgroups

Parents and Death

Bill Chadwick's Zoom: A special place to visit. Highly appreciated by many according to the guestbook logs. Bill's son was killed by a drunk driver. Other resources also available here. An open and honest site.

Bereaved Families of Ontario: A highly regarded site for those facing the loss of a child. Good family resources.

Grief and Loss Links: This site is done by a father who lost his son. Good suggestions for things to do to honour the loved one's memory are included.

Kay's Place: This is an excellent site done by a student of clinical/counselling psychology. Also has other resources including a page for people of colour.

Sudden Infant Death Syndrome: Valuable info and assistance for grieving parents.

Hannah's Prayer: Christian Infertility & Pregnancy - Infant Loss Support.

Hygeia... An Online Journal for Pregnancy and Neonatal Loss: Site by Dr. Michael Berman, Board certified obstetrician and gynecologist. An interactive site begun as a private BBS devoted to grieving and loss as it pertains to pregnancy loss, miscarriages, neonatal loss, poor neonatal outcome, voluntary terminations of abnormal pregnancies and other life-threatening illnesses. Has journal, poetry, references, resources and site-visitor contributions.

SANDS: Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Support: Support resources for parents who have experienced these tragedies.

Sudden Infant Death (SIDS) Network: Resources, info and support.

Death Of A Child

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Recovery Resources

Psych Central: Dr. John Grohol's Mental Health Page: Comprehensive index, rated and categorized of mental health resources available across the Net. One-stop for support resources, mental health issues, and people on the Net.

Emotional Support Guide: An excellent place to go for resources for physical loss, chronic illness and bereavement.

The DRM WebWatcher Support Groups

The Compassionate Friends: The umbrella site for the support group Compassionate Friends. Resources here for support groups.

Transformations: Forum for self-help and recovery.

Christians In Recovery: Another Christian site dealing with recovery from: abuse, family dysfunction, depression, anxiety, grief, addictions, etc. NOT a place to debate Christianity.

Self-Help Resource Book On-Line: Aids in finding self-help groups and other self-help resources.

The WEBster: Death and Dying: Excellent resources by a nurse.

Recovery Resources Online: Another index.

Articles on Grief Recovery: Index of grief recovery articles.

Persevering: Christian resource for survivors of sexual abuse with articles, poems, psalms, scripture, practical resources, etc. Tastefully done.

Bereavement Self-Help Support Guide

Bereavement Services: Support & Education

Miscarriage Association (UK)

Transformations

Special Resources

Together We Can Heal: A recording sponsored by Pike's Peak Hospice. An innovative and sensitive recording which specifically addresses the difficult issues surrounding the loss of a loved one. Lyrics communicate and empathize with the wide range of emotions experienced when grieving.

Going Home: Easing the Life-Death Transition: About a meditative tape designed to ease the transition hours. All proceeds from tape to Cancer Care of North Central Washington.

Robert Monroe's 'Going Home' Tapes: A two-volume set of 12 tapes; for the person making the transition and for caregivers and loved ones.

Spiritual Care Resources

Spiritual Care Internet Resources

OncoLink Religion at a Time of Crisis: Article.

Journals of A. Ragbear: Personal site addressing grief with a Christian perspective.

Seniors and Death

Coping With Death: From the Manitoba (Canada) Senior Citizens Handbook.

Spousal Grief

WidowNet: An excellent resource for widows and widowers and others.

Who Am I Now?: Poem. Many will identify with it.

SIDS: Sudden Infant Death Syndrome

The American SIDS Association

SIDS: Sudden Infant Death Syndrome

Suicide & Grief

Star Text Interact: Suicide Survivors Forum

Suicide: Other Resources: On the "Loss" page of Grief & Loss. Tends towards prevention resources.

Death, Dying, Hospice and Palliation: 'One of the fundamental goals of pain control is to prevent or relieve suffering. This is especially important at the end of life. The pressing issue of legislation on physician-assisted suicide underscores the great need that exists for research in these areas'

The DRM WebWatcher Life & Death Issues Euthanasia, Assisted Suicide, Right to Life: 'Euthanasia, assisted suicide and right-to-die are controversial issues in the disability community. This page provides links to resources on both sides of the debates.'

Homily & Service For Suicide griefA1.html# 1: From Sermons & Sermon-Lectionary Resources.

Homily & Service For Suicide griefA1.html# 2: From Sermons & Sermon-Lectionary Resources.

SAVE: Suicide - When the Worst Has Happened

Support Groups

Motherloss: Support group to help with the grieving issues for adult children of Moms who have died.

M.I.S.S.: Mothers In Sympathy and Support: A safe haven for parents to share their grief after the death of a child.

Journey of Hearts (A Healing Place in CyberSpace): A website for anyone who has ever experienced a loss. A place for enhancing physical and mental well-being.

Teenagers and Grief

T.A.G.: Teenage Grief: Resources for helping teens with grief.

Grief: An article on adolescent grief. Recommended reading.

Violence and Trauma Resources

Violence and Trauma: Section on the "Loss" page of Grief and Loss. Includes resources for Victims of Violence.

Links For Ministers, Teachers, Counsellors, Police, EMS Personnel, Doctors, Nurses, Etc.

Abnormal and /or Prolonged Grief

Are You Ready For A Support Group?: Helpful resource.

When Normal Grief Becomes Clinical Depression: Aimed at moms whose children are born with a cleft palate but could hold true, as well, for others who "get stuck in (their) grief and begin to stagnate" into depression.

Counselling and Counsellor Resources

"Compassion Fatigue" : When Listening Hurts: Exposed to an overdose of victim suffering, in burnout? This is the place for you.

MINDFUEL---Mindful Living, Mindful Dying: Geared towards the life support professions and law enforcement personnel. What we talk about here are the real "how tos" in the survival of critical incident stress... as we face extreme circumstances in our professions.

Brain Death and Brain Injury Resources: Deals with the medical, ethical, moral and emotional issues surrounding brain death and brain injuries.

Guide Through the Journey of Dying: From Hopewell House hospice, services offered by the Ecumenical Ministries of Oregon. What to expect: in transition (What do you tell the dying person? The truth.), and in the last months, weeks, days, hours and minutes.

Children, Stress and Natural Disasters

Gifts From Within: Understanding victims of spousal abuse. Why the abused stay. What merits counselling. References.

Cyber Psychologist Resource Center: Variety of resources for counsellors and others.

GrowthHouse: This is a private meeting facility (located in San Francisco-Bay area) for human service organizations working with working with life-threatening illness, bereavement, HIV disease, HIV education, and other major life challenges. Resources and links on-site. Excellent site.

Melissa's Therapy FAQ: Information on therapy.

Net Resources For Counsellors: Index of resources available on the Net.

Psychology & Counselling Pages

Social Work and Social Services Website: Excellent resource for social workers and others. A mega site.

Counsellor Associations

American Association of Pastoral Counsellors

Association for Death Education and Counselling: Education and counselling resources.

Counselling Resources On The Net: Excellent index.

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Courses Offered on Grief and Bereavement

Grief in a Family Context: A credit course offered by Indiana University with both graduate and undergraduate components.

Course Topics: I strongly encourage those of you with an interest in this field to check out this section of Grief in a Family Context. The course material is available here on-line. Access to a few parts of the research materials is restricted to registered students but otherwise the sessions are all here. Excellent!!!

Instructional Resources For Death & Dying Courses

For Caretakers, Teachers, Friends and Neighbours

If someone you love is sexually assaulted: Counselling and info resources.

Managing Grief Better: People With Developmental Disability: From the Habilitative Mental Health Care Newsletter May/June 1995, Vol.14 griefA1.html# 3, Over-protection issues. How to sensitively help people with developmental disabilities deal with life's issues, especially grief.

Caregiver Network: Resource for those caring for the sick, elderly.

The Befriending Network: A UK model of a network to help caregivers through community volunteers and resources.

Family Caregivers - Caregiving Newsletter: Subscription magazine with 3 issues free. Good resource.

Eldercare Web: Resources for those caring for the elderly and their needs.

What You Can Do for the Person Who Is Bereaved: Suggestions culled from the newsgroup Alt.Sup.Grief. See Bill Chadwick's Zoom page listed under Parents and Grief.

Caregiver Survival Resources: How to care for yourself while caring for others.

Family Caregiver Alliance: Another useful forum for caregivers.

Eldercare Web: Healthcare information for caregivers.

Eldercare Information Network, Inc.: Database on over 33, 000 institutions and services ranging from rehabilitation centres and retirement communities to longterm care facilities and homecare.

Mr. Long Term Care: Info on long term care facilities.

From One Caretaker To Another: Can we talk? For networking and support.

HomeCare Online

The National Family Caregivers Association

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Hospice & Palliative Care Resources

Hospice: Excellent resource on Hospice and hospice-related topics.

HELP: Helpful links for palliative care. From the UK.

University of Ottawa Institute of Palliative Care

Edmonton Palliative Care Home Page

The Institute of Palliative Care: University of Ottawa.

Hospice Cares.com

Hospice Nurses Association Homepage

Hospice Web

Hospice Foundation of America

Hospic-L Mailing List

Lend-A-Heart HomePage: For hospice workers.

National Hospice Organization

The Hospice Homepage: Collection of "Great Ideas" for hospice management including: fundraising, staff support, symptom relief, volunteer management, community education, and much more.

Nursing Home Resources

Faithful Friends Nursing Home Ministry: A resource by a Florida couple. An excellent resource that I've been hoping for.

Mainly for Ministers: Theology and Ethics

Prolonging Life: Theological thought from Kevin O'Rourke, Director for the Center for Health Care Ethics, St. Louis University Medical Center, Missouri.

Biderman's Chart of Coercion: Info on brainwashing and spiritual abuse.

Cult Awareness and Information Centre: Comprehensive and informative survey of cults and "isms" both malign and benign.

The Ethical Debate (on assisted suicide and euthanasia): Part of a much larger work, "When Death is Sought." Resource by the NY State Dept. of Health. Comprehensive and detailed. Can navigate using the bar to other resources. Excellent article!

Trauma and Religious Issues: By Fr. Joe Mahoney, Consulting Chaplain for the Archdiocese of Detroit. Deals with abuse issues.

CAPPE-ACPEP: Association for Pastoral Practice & Education: Canadian association.

So You Want To Help?: Resources for pastors on victims.

The Wounded Healer Journal

Therapy & Therapists/Counsellors
The listing of the following URLs does not represent endorsement, rather it represents inclusion for information and research.

Australian School Counsellors Association: Numerous quality resources on counselling.

The Counselling Web: Resources, education, publications, associations.

Deborah G. Mitnick, LCSW-C: Trauma incident reduction.

National Coalition of Arts Therapy

Native Counselling Services of Alberta

Counseling Resources on the Internet

Art Therapy on the Net

Art Therapy With Adults

ChallengeNet Library - Assistance Animals

RehabNET - Animal Facilitated Therapy Home Page

The Center For Attitudinal Healing

Selkirk Healing Centre: Native substance abuse treatment.

MultiCultural Counselling and Therapy

Courses In Grief And Bereavement

Bereavement Sudies Program

Conferences